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Could we meet for coffee, I would like to pick your brain? I love coffee….but No.

 

This is quite a sensitive topic and I have heard so many people over the last few months, either asking me or someone else this question, that I feel an urgent need to address it.

 

Yes, we have all done it but it is now becoming what people expect as the norm, and as entrepreneurs, their right to other entrepreneurs knowledge and experience, without compensation for their expertise.

 

I think us, as entrepreneurs that have put ourselves in the public domain as an authority on our topic/s have heard this more times than we can remember.

Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for the recognition and find it flattering that someone thinks my knowledge is of a high enough standard that they would like to get some instruction from me.

Over the last eight years or so, I have probably been asked for a coffee/brain pick close to a hundred times. Some I have had time to see and been happy to guide, others have just been blatant entitlement demands.

However, my life has got to a point where it is no longer an option. As I have got busier, and considering I work alone as an entrepreneur, impossible to fork out time, willy-nilly. I do not, like many entrepreneurs, have a backup partner to pay the bills.

I do on occasion collaborate with a business associate, and then it is a mutually beneficial project that is a fee-based arrangement.

Here are a few ways to politely say ‘NO’. Keep in mind that ‘NO’ is an entire sentence as well, but let’s be nice.

Ask them what it is exactly that they require and then refer them to a relevant source or if it is the service or product you offer, direct them to that information on your website etc.

Let them understand:

‘My workload is currently full as the services I offer are exactly what you are requesting and I consult for an hourly fee if you would like to book a time at a later date’. (I used this one recently and was shocked that it worked)

OR

‘My workload is full, so making a coffee date is not practical these days. Are you interested in becoming a client or do you just have a quick question?’

OR

‘I’m not available for lunch but you should consider getting onto the _______ (course etc.) It’s comprehensive, and created to assist people in your exact position.’

OR

‘I don’t have time to grab coffee unless it is an official business meeting. And my hourly consultation fee, if you are interested, is _____.’

OR

(Jokingly) Ask: When last did you walk into a store and scoop up an armful of clothing and walk out without paying….. (Wait for the ‘never’ response) Right….my hourly consultation fee is____.’

OR

When asked if I could mentor them:

‘I do pro bono work and my quota is currently full’. Most people are not even aware of the volunteer work I do, and may, therefore, assume that as an entrepreneur, I have more free time than a regular 9-5 worker. In some instances you may feel the need to mention those, I don’t!  I also facilitate soft skills courses for other companies, hardly anyone is aware of that.

If someone wants to pick your brain, ask them to pick a time and method of payment. If you want people to value your time, put a value on it!

I do appreciate you asking to feed my coffee addiction but unfortunately, I am unable to make it a social meeting unless it is a weekend and you are my friend.

FYI: If we do get to that business coffee meeting (for a consultation fee) the coffee is still on you, unless of course, you sign up as a client. 😉

Regards

 
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PERSONAL BRANDING 101 – EXCLUSIVE FREE ONE DAY EVENT

 

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https://www.thegiraffebrand.com/coaching/ 

The Giraffe brand academy will equip you with the tools to build a powerful and authentic personal brand to take your life and business to the next level.

Your personal brand is one of the most valuable assets you can control.

No matter what you’re trying to achieve in life, an integrated personal brand is an essential building block in your success.

Personal brands help establish credibility, increase your online influence, grow your career, generate sales, and expand your professional network.

 

 
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Employee Workshop – Own Your Challenges

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Workshop One: Own Your Challenges!

Published on 6 March, 2019 by in Training

Lifestyle Skills Management which include:

Workshop One:

Own Your Challenges!

There are potentially numerous issues that could create setbacks in a person’s personal life which can also carry over to their work life.

It can be detrimental to their well-being, if not addressed.

By addressing a setback and collaborating with management and employees, a positive change can be made, which will lead to behavioural change, and safeguard against loss of revenue and absenteeism.

I equip individuals/employees with effective methods in:

Becoming resilient.

How to motivate themselves.

When and why to terminate a troublesome project.

Explore alternative options of accountability.

How to cope with failing.

Take back their Balance & Bounce

Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire. – Arnold Glasgow-

Ask me for more information.

 
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Lose The Ego!

I have been pondering for quite some time whether I should write this post!

Today, after voicing aloud to my HIV compatriot that I had of late, slowed down on sharing HIV & AIDS educational and awareness content on my social media sites, decided to go ahead and write what has been simmering away for a few months.

I had become somewhat embarrassed by several of my HIV ‘activist’ associates having these massive ego’s and ‘look at me’ ‘why am I not being applauded for my contribution’ attitudes.

Seeing that we are all in the same boat and connected via social media, was concerned that I would be perceived to be that way inclined as well. I certainly hope not!

So, to the detriment of sharing information and educating on HIV & AIDS, chose to back off to some extent, and consequently feel I have failed the public.

My intent has always been to share and show, without the rah-rah approach.

By this I mean to demonstrate, over and above sharing information to consistently create awareness, that one can, by living a spirited, productive, healthy and activity filled life, achieve anything you set your mind to.

The plan is to forge ahead now that I have come to terms with the fact that I am NOT them and that there is still a lot to share around HIV & AIDS.

 
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Presenting on….’Own Your Challenges’

Lifestyle Skills Management which include:


Own Your Challenges’

There are potentially numerous issues that could create setbacks in a person’s personal life which can also carry over to their work life.

It can be detrimental to their well-being, if not addressed.

By addressing a setback and collaborating with management and employees, a positive change can be made, which will lead to behavioural change, and safeguard against loss of revenue and absenteeism.

                >Becoming resilient.
                >How to motivate themselves.
                >When and why to terminate a troublesome project.
                >Explore alternative options of accountability.
                >How to cope with failing.

            Take back your Balance & Bounce!

Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire. – Arnold Glasgow-

 
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Own Your Challenges!

Plodding along in the hope that everything will turn out just fine, is not an option.

If you are faced with challenges, whether physical or emotional, will affect your mental state and jeopardise your ability to function normally.

Facing your challenges or fears is the only way to make practical choices in order to change your circumstances. The question is; how do you do that?

Not everyone has a personality type to cope with challenges on their own so acquiring the valuable and experienced counselling/guidance is paramount to get you through tough times.

If you have been through a traumatic event or face issues at work, or even in  your personal life, the best way to approach it is head-on and as soon as humanly possible.

Over and above my health issues, many years ago I was on holiday and my then husband had my 18 month son in a backpack carrier and decided to get a view of a mountain from a closer viewpoint. He stood up on a low wall overlooking a sheer drop. I freaked, lost the plot and screeched for him to get off the wall. Prior to that I had no issue with heights, little realising how that one incident would affect me for over thirty years.

Once I decided to own and face my fear of heights, I firstly went on a 1,5km Zipline Tour in Ballito, KZN. After a leisurely nature walk to the top of the cliff I was introduced to the “1st in the world” – all new “Parazip” proceeding to slide on a 400m cable from the top of the mountain.  That was around 2014.

I then decided, in 2018 that zip-lining was for sissies, so on World AIDS Day, I proceeded to tandem paraglide off Signal Hill. What a blast and I can honestly say I would do it again.

My life, my choices!

Don’t be ashamed of what you’ve been through or what you’re dealing with.

What are your challenges and what are you doing to defeat them?

There are ways to overcome each and every obstacle; you just need the right tools!

About Cindy: In 2004, Cindy was diagnosed with HIV & AIDS. By 2008 she was subjected to Cancer (stage 3b) and TB Meningitis. Cindy had two Strokes and Shingles, four times in one year. And a hefty bout of Pneumonia… all that in a space of four years. In March 2018 Cindy had a massive heart attack leading to a double bypass.

 
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Commemorative Tattoo 2018



Fresh from the needle!

So chuffed with the latest update of my tattoo by:

@francoiscoertzen at @tattoomaniacapetown – Instagram

 
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Forever Mine!




To My Darling Virus,                                                                                     11-11-2018

You and I have travelled a long way together; in fact, you are the longest relationship I have ever had, so firmly attached to me.

I would like to commend you for your perseverance. You gave me uphill for the first four years or so, from 2004 to 2008, but have since pulled yourself together and been understanding and supportive.

We are not only good friends (with me in charge of course) but also intimate companions, who understand, respect and take good care of our ongoing relationship.

May we continue to nurture and maintain our bond in such a way as to grow old together.

Your ever loving host,

#CindyHIV

 
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Do you celebrate your Speaker colleagues?




It would be very remiss of me if I let this slide, especially after Liezel van der Westhuizen, a speaker colleague, friend, and Mastermind Associate could get so excited on my behalf.

 

I received an animated phone call saying:

 

‘Do you know that you are ranked Fourth (4th) on the list of famous motivational speakers in South Africa’?

 

Needless to say, I hopped straight on to the internet to check it out, lo and behold; there I am on a list of 80 of my peers, who would have thought!

 

I have no doubt it has a lot to do with the amount of visibility, through marketing, SEO’s and general PR that I have done since going public with my HIV status in 2011. (Diagnosed 2004).

 

It is however very rewarding to know that your message of HIV awareness is recognised, onwards and upwards.

 

Thanks again @Liezelv #GiraffeLiezel #Giraffeinthecity, much appreciated for sharing this with me, we as speakers should celebrate each other as candidly as you did as we all have an important messages to share.

 

Check out the list.

http://eventsource.co.za/list-of-famous-motivational-speakers-in-south-africa/

 
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