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I would like you to know that I am one of the most positive (pun intended) people you will ever meet. After two failed marriages, I finally landed in the most disastrous relationship of all and contracted the HIV virus at the very late age of 46, diagnosed on the 11th November 2004 while living in KwaZulu Natal, South Africa.(Living in Cape Town since June 2014)

It is not a depressing story of my life but is in fact a celebration and insight into how to survive living with HIV & AIDS.

The life threatening condition changed the way I thought, lived, ate, slept, had relationships, related to other people and also changing with who and where I socialised .

The perception amongst the black South African community is that white people, specifically white women are not vulnerable to HIV & AIDS; my knowledge of this comes from actual counselling of the black South African community, which is partly what inspired me to share my status assisting in removing the stigma associated with the disease.

I do not for a minute believe that the white South African community feels that they are as vulnerable as the black community. They are in denial and terrified to acknowledge that they are at risk or already HIV positive. You know that ‘ostrich head in the ground’ syndrome – if they cannot see it, it is not there. Due to the lack of knowledge and misinformation, the white community at large knows very little about the disease.

This website was created to share some of my experiences, gather information, debate issues, and where possible assist others in need of information by pointing them in the right direction for their specific needs.

The need for an English speaking HIV & AIDS Support Group arose and has subsequently flourished. It includes an IEC Programme (Information-Education-Communication) for the benefit of individuals living with the virus.


To mobilise and empower the South African business sector as well as the population at large to take effective action on HIV & AIDS.


• Create an understanding of how HIV is transmitted in an attempt to curb the ongoing spread of the disease.
• Educate through my experience and personal testimony of living with HIV & AIDS.
• Create awareness on how HIV & AIDS affects us all as a global community, infected or not.
• Promote the view that those living with HIV & AIDS require understanding and consideration rather than judgment with a stigma attached to it as no one ‘deserves’ this disease.


Various projects:

a. Computer Skills Income Initiative

This initiative is to empower persons to prepare small business plans, quotes, letters and essential admin skills etc. in order to generate an income for themselves.

b. Training: Support Group Facilitator – Quality Living Course

This initiative is to motivate and empower individuals to take this course information back to their communities and potentially generate an income for themselves by facilitating their own courses and in time assist in removing the stigma attached to the HI virus.

c. Roadshow: HIVenture-Tour de Life

The objective is to tour SA and visit 10 cities, creating awareness and sharing information and optimism that there is a life after diagnosis!


3 Responses

  1. Yes, I’ve found that same phenomenon here in the US. It’s always ‘someone else’. It’s not ‘us’; it’s ‘them’. I’ve had some close friends honestly acknowledge that this is why a mutual friend has spoken the way she has in the past. As another friend of mine says, “Low-risk is not the same as no-risk”, and that’s a distinction that many in the white hetero community still don’t want to make. Which puts them at-risk.
    Glad to meet you. I also have a blog @ http://angiedub.livejournal.com

  2. lisa khuzwayo

    Firstly I would like to say you inspire me very much Cindy. Reading your story made me want to chat to you- it made me connect to you. I’m a 19 year old lady who is hiv and pregnant and I think I have accepted it but not fully but the thing is that the father of my unborn baby was the one who infected me and he doesn’t know that he’s got the virus,so I’m the one who will have to tell him and try to explain to him that I was negetive @ the time we met. But what I really need help on is how to let him know and understand that this is not a death sentence and we can still carry on with our lives regardless of our status. If you would be able to assist me can you please reply via the blog as I can’t check and read my emails and your help will be greatly appreciated-lots of love and take care

    • admin

      Hi, I am so sorry to hear of your predicament. I trust you will come to terms with your status as it need not be a death sentence if you take care of yourself.

      What I would suggest is that you and your partner see a counsellor together as it will ease the process of disclosing your/his HIV status.

      Where are you based, I could possibly assist in giving you someone in your area to contact for counselling.

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